T H O N H I O

‘a good relationship’ may just mean ‘a long one’.  We tend to measure the
quality of our relationships by how long they last.  Yet, look back at some of
your relationships, the significant encounters that have affected you, and
notice the length…  One of my most significant relationships, that taught me
so much, only lasted a month!  We think of relationships as ‘a failure’ when
they end, but I think it would be better to think of them as ‘a journey’.  ‘Oh,
this person travelled with me.. to…here, and on the way we… ‘

Perhaps the
wisest journey, too, is one where you look at your feet and make a fresh
decision on direction with every step!  Surely this is the way to end up where
you really want to get to?  Rather than setting the destination, blindly
tramping there, then at the peak exclaiming ’shit!  I’m in the wrong place!’  In
a similar vein, I want to re-write the fairy stories, or at least add a bit onto
the usual ending thus: ‘I want to live happily ever after… EVERY DAY!’

Do you believe that your future happiness depends on your finding THE ONE? If you think you MUST find love in the form of a soul mate in order to be truly happy, we hate to disillusion you, but you’ll probably never find THE ONE, nor much happiness…

Why? because you’re looking outside for love, expecting it to come to you…. when the only way to find The One, is to give love, to be loving, to be the source of your own happiness… then love comes, naturally, in its own time… the perfect love for you…

We are impatient in our search for love, we want to overlook the inner work, we think we’ll find the love we need outside ourselves…. in fact, our society has taught us that loving ourselves is probably sinful, narcissistic at the very least… yet the truth is that there is only one place to search for the love - it is within… When we can be happy being One, we attract the partners who will appreciate and bask in our love - and return it, ounce for ounce…